Once, and only once, in every person's life, they are entitled to receive homeless benefits from Social Services, in the form of cash to pay for a motel room. The amount they provide is $640, which is enough for 16 nights in a room that costs $40 per night.
You can imagine what a forty dollar room, in Oakland, is like. Crackheads, prostitutes, drug dealing, folx with a slippery grip on reality.
I took the first check, and it paid for 6 nights at $50 per night, in a motel a step up from the ones on, say, West Mac. There were still lowlifes there, they were just a little less blatant.
The second $320 check would have bought 6 more nights at the same motel. The one where the ice machine cost a quarter a cup, and you had to pay 35 cents for each phone call. What the fuck ever. I packed our stuff in the van, checked out of the motel, and me & my baby headed south.
We ended up in Santa Cruz, at a motel a block and a half from the Boardwalk. It had a queen size bed, a bathtub, a little refrigerator and a microwave. Jayden jumped on the bed about a million times, trying out tricks he'd seen trampoliners do on TV. He watched more Cartoon Network than any child should see, and ate more junk than I ever thought I'd give him.
We walked to the beach on Monday, and found seashells and got knocked on our asses by incoming tides. Tuesday, we went to the Boardwalk, and rode every ride Jayden was tall enough to get on. He overdosed on cotton candy and soda, ate half my pizza, and killed a buncha ghosts on that silly ride over next to the cave train. He splashed water on me during the log ride, and expertly smashed into every single person in the space-age bumper cars ride.
We got back to Oakland Tuesday night, got a pretty lil' motel room over by Laney College, and on Wednesday we were at Traveler's Aid bright & early. We got placed in a shelter, a really good one, I think, although I don't have anything to compare it to. I went into the shelter situation with a clear, relaxed and rested mind; our escape had done me good.
I guess social services would've rather had Jayden at a crackhead motel for two weeks. Fuck 'em. We lived it up & my baby's still talking about the fun he had, so *blllpppphhhhttt* raspberries to 'em.
We've been in the shelter for a month today, and things are going well; it's difficult living under someone else's rules, and living in close quarters with other folx after being on my own for hella years; but we're adjusting, and it's a completely kid-centric place, and Jayden's still going to his awesome school, and Rooney, my van, is running great (he got new tires & brakes before our S'Cruz jaunt), and income/housing/health issues are all moving forward.
It's going good, and it'll be even greater later. Love y'all.
Posted by starmama July 11, 2003 01:00 PMglad to hear everything is going ok. take care chica.
Posted by: monique July 11, 2003 02:50 PMI am so happy to hear that you & Jayden are doing well!
Posted by: DD July 11, 2003 06:56 PMGreat to hear that things are starting to go your way again. Love to you and Jayden.
Posted by: mike July 12, 2003 12:32 AMI think about you two a lot. I'm glad to hear you're okay, and glad you got a chance to give us an update!
Posted by: Laura July 12, 2003 05:46 PMlove YOU!
Posted by: nakachi July 12, 2003 11:45 PMGlad things are going well. I think the jaunt south definitely did you some good.
Posted by: Jenn July 14, 2003 08:45 AMDamn girl I was starting to think you had slide off the side of the earth, whew I'm glad its good. I just came back from my family renioun and LA and am heading back out once again. Things are good, okay, well you know, but I miss you and would love to find a spot in the park for us to smoke and talk shit. Holla.
Love
Posted by: Danielle July 14, 2003 12:26 PMI'm glad to see you doing better.I'll keep you guys in prayer. :D
Posted by: mayne July 18, 2003 08:47 PMI found your site through fleagrl back when you were needing a car. Anyway, I've been thinking about you since I heard of your situation and I'm thinking about you everyday wishing you good luck. I hope everything is going well for you and Jayden.
-Susannah
Posted by: Susannah July 31, 2003 07:40 PMmy best to you, mama...and that sweet baby, too.
Posted by: drublood August 12, 2003 02:15 PMFOund you through Smallhand. Wanted to help out with the car situation but couldn't. I've been checking back periodically to see if you've posted. Just hoping the best for you and Jayden. I used to work for Human Services in my hometown and know the system is a bitch to deal with. Take care of you and the little man. Peace
Posted by: gee August 19, 2003 09:00 PMI spoke with Mandy late last week and things are really looking up. She has secured a decent steady income, better than what she was getting, and she has something coming to her that will secure her in a place soon and allow her to treat herself and Jayden to some new things, which they both deserve so much. The universe is working just as it should for Mandy these days and she sounds really positve about all the changes that her and Jayden have been going through. It looks like the hardest part of this transition is coming to an end and they both are not too worse for the wear. yeah!!
Posted by: Danielle August 20, 2003 02:17 PM